Growing Old and Still In Love

I confess that I am not a ‘love’ writer but this is the month where Hallmark is raking in lots of moolahs, restaurants have their heyday and flower vendors are feeling Christmassy!

But how do you define love? Shakespeare has the answer– if you don’t show your love, you do not love at all. I believe everyday should be like Valentines day. You always show that you love your husband or wife, children, friends, the lovable and yes- even the unlovable. To me, love is finding happiness in simple things. While I like many love songs, I think Adam Sandler’s Growing Old with You captures what love should be everyday- not something accompanied by fireworks- but simple and profound. Here is the lyrics (hope you like it as much as I do).

[Billy Idol (Speaking):] Good afternoon everyone.
We’re flying at 26, 000 feet, moving
Up to thirty thousand feet, and then we’ve got clear skies
All the way to Las Vegas, and right now we’re bringing you some in-flight
Entertainment. One of our first-class passengers would like to sing you a song
Inspired by one of our coach passengers, and since we let our first-class
Passengers do pretty much whatever they want, here he is.

[Robbie Hart (Singing):]
I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
Oh all I wanna do is grow old with you

I’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you

I’ll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold

Need you
Feed you
Even let ya hold the remote control

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed when you’ve had too much to drink
I could be the man who grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you

I appreciate old couples who still hold hands and still have ‘that’ twinkle in their eyes. To me- that should be love- one that never tires and wanes. One time, my sister and I ate at one of the restaurant in our hometown. Just beside our table was a couple who were in their late 60s or early 70s. While waiting for their order, they were animatedly talking with each. When their food arrived, the old man gave a short prayer and while they were about to eat, the wife asked the man, “”Di, nangadyi na ta?” (Daddy, have we said our prayers?). The old man gently replied that yes, they just did that a few seconds ago. The old lady laughed and they started eating their food.

My sister and I were amused and we pretended not to eavesdrop and later, when they stood up, the husband took his wife by the hand and they went out of the restaurant holding hands. My sister and I asked each other, how many old couples are like that? We were quiet for a moment. I thought, only a few…

Photo Credit: Julia


8 thoughts on “Growing Old and Still In Love

  1. hi bin!

    this makes me cry but I will never get tired praying and hoping that someday I will have that somebody I will grow old with…short-term memory loss or not, and when grey hairs and wrinkled faces no longer matter..

    ingon pa lagi si Lorenzo sa Letters to Juliet, “when we are apeaking about LOVE, it is never too Late!”

    hayzzz! love, love, love

    miss you bin!

    1. Miss you too dot! Ako pud, I’ll pray that you’ll find that happiness that you so long deserve 🙂 kanang bahala wrinkled na kaayo ta- kita gegapon ang pinakagwapa! hehehe

  2. Ter,
    i remember their conversation (nag eavesdrop jud) it was about politics…. hahahaha daun mao to nahitabo mao pa lang paghuman ug ampo sa isa – nangutana daun ang isa kung mana ba sila ug ampo… hahaha…

    i love u ter… let;’s grow old together with our lovable hubbs…

  3. Ay about politics tood to noh kay nag gunit man diay to og newspaper ang lolo… korek ter! let’s grow old with our hubbies- busa ga undang na mi og inom coke ron! hehehe

  4. ter, nakadumdum nko (haiz ning short term memory loss nata) si lolo ang nag-ampo unya xa ra pud ang nangutana k lola kung mana ba sila ug ampo… hhahahah… ter sunod ikaw na ang mag-ingna… mangadyi human mangutana kung mana na ug pangadyi… tungod na sa coke…

  5. Ter- magundang og inom og coke para dili masayo og ka tigok…. Para maka-abot pa mi sa edad adtong lola og lolo— ga short term memory loss na ko ter kay gakahitabo na (permi) sa ako na paghuman nako pray- mangutana dayon ko ni joseph kung na bless na ba ang food! hahaha

  6. ter… naay mas nindot na transition sa imong pagbiya sa coke (aron walay separation anxiety) isagul nimo ang coke sa juice.. preferably grape juice na dgahan ice… daun bottoms up!!!
    intawon terter lola na imong dating.. gakalimot na ka… wahahhaha…

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