This question is similar to why can’t infant boys wear pink booties or cute pink shirts? I asked myself these questions because my sons have either worn a baby pink receiving blanket or has at a number of times played with a doll house. By the way, I haven’t allowed Josh or Jojo wear pink booties though.
Because Danielle has a doll house and because Josh and Danielle would want to play on one single toy almost every time (yes- fight over one toy), there would be instances that Josh would play with Danielle’s doll house. Did I ever stop Josh from playing or at least diverted his attention to toy cars? Well- No.
My reasoning is simple. The segregation of toys to one gender or the assigning of colors as only for girls or only for boys are both social constructs. People (and parents) expect pink colors to be worn only by girls and blue colors to be worn by boys. Doll houses are for girls and cars are for boys. (BTW, I’m adamant that dolls should only be for girls). Most (me including) are afraid to mix things because we don’t want boys to grow effeminate or girls to be masculine. While I respect gender roles, and would want my boys to be boys, I don’t see anything wrong with boys playing with a cooking set or a doll house. Don’t you like men who stay at home as their schedule allows, clean the house and cook? If Josh likes to play cook or play house- I woudn’t mind. If Danielle likes to play with race cars (and she does)- I woudn’t mind either. I find it empowering to see women join car races. I have also allowed my youngest son to wear a pink blanket apart from his all blue receiving blankets. It was a gift from my boss who thought that I would be giving birth to a girl.
How about you? Would you allow your child to defy social expectations?